Moving on From A Betrayal

How do you feel after finding out that your partner betrayed you? Or finding he's having an affair with someone else? How will you react? Sudden confrontation or what?

Sudden discovery of a hidden affair certainly is shocking, it could caused anger and numbness of emotion, no matter how you would want to be well-mannered, it is really uncontrollable. This is unexpected occurrence in one's life, and if it does, do you have enough courage to take control of it? Or can you have the power to convince yourself that you can forgive?

No one wants this painful experience to happen to anybody. Holding such pain will just cause it to worsen and could even be stressful both physically and mentally. Surge of anger is such a normal feeling being caught off guard and letting the emotion flow freely could help to lighten the burden.

Take an effort to avoid visualizing the thoughts of cheating which is just a tormenting act. There's nothing wrong in crying, yelling but without violent reactions. Once you get rid of such anger it could make you strong to face and analyze the situation. You can start by considering the past and connect it to what you think might be the cause of his falling into another relationship.

After things have been sorted out, it could probably the right time to discuss it with your partner, but remember not to think that you did your part perfectly. Always consider those essential issues that need to be addressed. His affair with someone else has nothing to do with your love to him nor doesn't make it a failure in a relationship, it just that there is always a need to rectify the issues appropriately. Let him know how you feel by his betrayal. Let him know that you were deeply wounded without emphasizing how you work hard to keep your relationship, be strong to be calm and rational for him be the one to realize his fault. Stay your focus to find and establish the reasons of having that affair, from then, brood over on how to move on with your lives together. Good communication always plays the vital role to a good and harmonious relationship. Understanding, trusting, and forgiving then follows in establishing a good foundation of relationship.