Letting Go

Letting go of someone is probably the most arduous thing that can be done. Do we really have to believe or hold on to the so-called “unconditional love”? There are so many instances that someone could not get rid of a relationship despite of so many appalling issues cropped up. If letting go is just that easy, no more people will be ill with heartaches, there would be no more agony in finding ways to mend a grief-stricken soul. But why is letting go is so much easier said than done?

Simply because our inner feelings is our foremost opponent. We could not accept that we gave more of what we can but got less in return. Some were slaves of their false pride, could not accept that someone replaced their space in the heart of their ex-someone. There are some hopefuls thinking there are still some chances of fixing the ruined relationship. They could not just let it go for they don't want their time and emotion invested would just turned into a waste. Or maybe some still looks forward to possibilities of rewinding the past. And the worst?.. some thought that it still love they kept holding on, unknowingly, they building up hatred in their heart. They thought it's still the memories and feelings that remained in their heart and mind. But I’m quite sure, no one could foretell or criticize, about how someone feels inside, how someone holding on with their emotions, or how they will justify their feelings towards someone, not even I, for we are still capable of loving and caring.

Moving on From A Betrayal

How do you feel after finding out that your partner betrayed you? Or finding he's having an affair with someone else? How will you react? Sudden confrontation or what?

Sudden discovery of a hidden affair certainly is shocking, it could caused anger and numbness of emotion, no matter how you would want to be well-mannered, it is really uncontrollable. This is unexpected occurrence in one's life, and if it does, do you have enough courage to take control of it? Or can you have the power to convince yourself that you can forgive?

No one wants this painful experience to happen to anybody. Holding such pain will just cause it to worsen and could even be stressful both physically and mentally. Surge of anger is such a normal feeling being caught off guard and letting the emotion flow freely could help to lighten the burden.

Take an effort to avoid visualizing the thoughts of cheating which is just a tormenting act. There's nothing wrong in crying, yelling but without violent reactions. Once you get rid of such anger it could make you strong to face and analyze the situation. You can start by considering the past and connect it to what you think might be the cause of his falling into another relationship.

After things have been sorted out, it could probably the right time to discuss it with your partner, but remember not to think that you did your part perfectly. Always consider those essential issues that need to be addressed. His affair with someone else has nothing to do with your love to him nor doesn't make it a failure in a relationship, it just that there is always a need to rectify the issues appropriately. Let him know how you feel by his betrayal. Let him know that you were deeply wounded without emphasizing how you work hard to keep your relationship, be strong to be calm and rational for him be the one to realize his fault. Stay your focus to find and establish the reasons of having that affair, from then, brood over on how to move on with your lives together. Good communication always plays the vital role to a good and harmonious relationship. Understanding, trusting, and forgiving then follows in establishing a good foundation of relationship.

Mending a Wounded Heart

Breaking up with your love one is among the hardest thing to do and expected to create indescribable pain especially to a woman. But certainly, a relationship lead to break-ups always has a justifiable reason. Mending a broken heart is never an easy process to go through, but for every problem there's a solution as well as for every pain there's a prescription.

Being broken hearted could not be understood by someone who has not been yet in a serious relationship. A wounded heart requires ample time to heal, but not impossible. It's always been said easy than done. It's fine to grieve and cry for something you feel makes you sad. It's always normal to feel betrayed or wasted an investment for nothing. But to keep on thinking or asking what have you done wrong will just prolong your agony. Fight the thoughts that will connect to the past by keeping yourself busy on something else. Try to divert your focus into something you think worth or deserves your attention. Have time with friends and family instead of punishing yourself alone.

Someone may say that "Yes, it's really easy said than done". But acceptance is the best, though not that simple means to evaluate the situation. Having your thoughts cleared out of those mean feelings, then realization will follow that everything happens for a reason. Just take those disappointing events a learning experience to develop a new you. Then there you can find strength to release the pain and understand that it would not be impossible to welcome happiness in God's given time.