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I was asked how I’ve come to this title, and I simply responded “Because Love makes the world go round”.
And why not? Human were created by the love of God. And love is represented by a HEART, and no one lives without a heart. It is from the heart that comes emotion, and love corresponds and seeks connection directly to a particular someone or something. It helps us to communicate and discover our strengths and weaknesses as well as our emotional and mental capabilities.
Apart from wealth, status, and kinship, we value love and acknowledges its worth in a relationship we established in different types of people. It also has been known that love differs depends on the degree of expressing it and on who we’re loving.
It was classified differently such as Agape (love for God), Phileo (also known as brotherly love), and Eros (something to do with sensuality). There are also different types under these classifications of love such as courtly love, free love, romantic love, instantaneous love, religious love, familial love, true love, among many others. Thus makes the word LOVE indefinable.
The focus of this blog is to express emotion. The kind of relationship people are currently in, and the experiences brought about by love. Is it anger, pain, happiness, guilt, depression, fear, anxiety, sadness or what? If you have to define love, how would you describe it? If you have a list of people you love, who would be on top?
LOVE makes the word go round, true enough as the familiar love quote says:
There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved. ~by George Sand
I once encountered a couple who shared their story with me. They were married late for a reason they considered the same rationale why some people opted to stay single rather than getting married. And this the belief on first impression.
Most people still believes it is first impression that would last. They are the people who scared of committing mistakes in choosing their better-halves, they are the non-risk-takers when it comes to marriage which they believed a commitment for life, which is true. They usually rely on how they feel about the person when they first met – or the so-called intuition or gut-feeling.
This is what was happened to the couple and wanted it to be shared that it was a big mistake if this belief would be the basis on deciding for your future. They believed that relationship should always be given a chance to grow, support and should always be taken care of if you want it to be in good shape.
Everybody should have been given an opportunity to prove themselves of who really they are. Probably it is love that really binds this couple to take the risk of trying and giving room for their emotion to be discovered. True enough, they said that if they kept on holding on to this wrong belief, they would not have been given the chance to feel the happiness they have with their kids. If there is something we want to have or to do, no one will get it or do it for us but ourselves, so let us not be suppressed by anything that's not exist and be afraid not to try.
A guy walking perturbed along the park for he is about to lose his girl whom he love so much. For the reason that the girl found this guy unsympathetic, proud and insensitive. The guy feels awkward for all these phony accusation of his feelings towards the girl. Probably reserved for he is not the type of either an amorous or demonstrative one. Anxious to be called corny or sappy is his ultimate cause for not being showy. He seldom say words of endearment, and most often, he needs an occasion to be able to have reason to give something that would epitomize his fondness for his girl.
Some people feel awkward in showing off their emotions. Often times they have to wait for what they called appropriate time specifically an occasion to take advantage just to let someone feel his passion for caring or loving. Most occasions deem as gift-giving time which considered as deed that signifies affection. Emotions should not be hindered by anything. Occasions are just to remind of some important instances. It is also unnecessary for something to represent your feelings. It would not cause humiliation to someone to be your self, or to let someone know your feelings. Not all people are waiting for so much of anything, but probably a simple word of sympathy, endearment, caring or whatever you may call it would satisfy one’s heart to feel that they are valued and loved. Wait no more for an occasion to say someone how much you care for them. Let them feel and know it now that they are capable to feel and hear rather than to be late. This may save and strengthen relationship with your loved ones.
Letting go of someone is probably the most arduous thing that can be done. Do we really have to believe or hold on to the so-called “unconditional love”? There are so many instances that someone could not get rid of a relationship despite of so many appalling issues cropped up. If letting go is just that easy, no more people will be ill with heartaches, there would be no more agony in finding ways to mend a grief-stricken soul. But why is letting go is so much easier said than done?
Simply because our inner feelings is our foremost opponent. We could not accept that we gave more of what we can but got less in return. Some were slaves of their false pride, could not accept that someone replaced their space in the heart of their ex-someone. There are some hopefuls thinking there are still some chances of fixing the ruined relationship. They could not just let it go for they don't want their time and emotion invested would just turned into a waste. Or maybe some still looks forward to possibilities of rewinding the past. And the worst?.. some thought that it still love they kept holding on, unknowingly, they building up hatred in their heart. They thought it's still the memories and feelings that remained in their heart and mind. But I’m quite sure, no one could foretell or criticize, about how someone feels inside, how someone holding on with their emotions, or how they will justify their feelings towards someone, not even I, for we are still capable of loving and caring.
Before, being single is really a big issue. It could affect one's social life, be it with family or friends. In some instances when you're around with couples, it seems awkward for the reason that you could not join in discussion that has something to do with their married life. When you're with friends, just the same feeling, you feel cast out when their planning of having a date with their steady boy or girlfriend. When you're with your relatives' siblings, and enjoying the fun being around kids, you could feel that you missed something, the feeling of emptiness, lonesome. The worst is when you realized that you're not getting any younger and not capable to have that "something" anymore. This is just my point of view being a single.
But now, for some people, being single is not actually a choice or an issue to decide on. Being an open-minded, it’s just happened for a reason. Because for me, if being a single is a choice, I would not rather choose to be alone. If someone is on her younger years, maybe it’s just that they enjoy the company of friends, having fun, and just see the advantage of being single in that aspect, but as you get mature, you would only realize then that someone really needs someone to be with. Not for any particular reason but certainly for mutual needs. Most of the time, realization always comes late. So if incase someone will say that being single is a choice, better pay sometime to think about it.
How do you feel after finding out that your partner betrayed you? Or finding he's having an affair with someone else? How will you react? Sudden confrontation or what?
Sudden discovery of a hidden affair certainly is shocking, it could caused anger and numbness of emotion, no matter how you would want to be well-mannered, it is really uncontrollable. This is unexpected occurrence in one's life, and if it does, do you have enough courage to take control of it? Or can you have the power to convince yourself that you can forgive?
No one wants this painful experience to happen to anybody. Holding such pain will just cause it to worsen and could even be stressful both physically and mentally. Surge of anger is such a normal feeling being caught off guard and letting the emotion flow freely could help to lighten the burden.
Take an effort to avoid visualizing the thoughts of cheating which is just a tormenting act. There's nothing wrong in crying, yelling but without violent reactions. Once you get rid of such anger it could make you strong to face and analyze the situation. You can start by considering the past and connect it to what you think might be the cause of his falling into another relationship.
After things have been sorted out, it could probably the right time to discuss it with your partner, but remember not to think that you did your part perfectly. Always consider those essential issues that need to be addressed. His affair with someone else has nothing to do with your love to him nor doesn't make it a failure in a relationship, it just that there is always a need to rectify the issues appropriately. Let him know how you feel by his betrayal. Let him know that you were deeply wounded without emphasizing how you work hard to keep your relationship, be strong to be calm and rational for him be the one to realize his fault. Stay your focus to find and establish the reasons of having that affair, from then, brood over on how to move on with your lives together. Good communication always plays the vital role to a good and harmonious relationship. Understanding, trusting, and forgiving then follows in establishing a good foundation of relationship.
Breaking up with your love one is among the hardest thing to do and expected to create indescribable pain especially to a woman. But certainly, a relationship lead to break-ups always has a justifiable reason. Mending a broken heart is never an easy process to go through, but for every problem there's a solution as well as for every pain there's a prescription.
Being broken hearted could not be understood by someone who has not been yet in a serious relationship. A wounded heart requires ample time to heal, but not impossible. It's always been said easy than done. It's fine to grieve and cry for something you feel makes you sad. It's always normal to feel betrayed or wasted an investment for nothing. But to keep on thinking or asking what have you done wrong will just prolong your agony. Fight the thoughts that will connect to the past by keeping yourself busy on something else. Try to divert your focus into something you think worth or deserves your attention. Have time with friends and family instead of punishing yourself alone.
Someone may say that "Yes, it's really easy said than done". But acceptance is the best, though not that simple means to evaluate the situation. Having your thoughts cleared out of those mean feelings, then realization will follow that everything happens for a reason. Just take those disappointing events a learning experience to develop a new you. Then there you can find strength to release the pain and understand that it would not be impossible to welcome happiness in God's given time.
